Bertrand Russell , a hard read, but worth it.
Tag: Anxiety
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Is it time to fill the constant that is time?
The speed of time standing still Zoom! – “What was that”?
“That was your life, mate”.
“That was quick, do I get another”?
“Sorry mate, that’s your lot.”
Basil Fawlty in Fawlty Towers, BBC Television. (John Cleese)
Our lives might not seem to be moving quickly at the moment but they are moving at the same pace as yesterday, the days before that and the days to come.
The virus has however changed all our lives. Time has remained the constant that it always was but how we use this time as changed.
Before we probably didn’t think we had enough of it but now that has altered and we are not too sure how to deal with it.
Most of us like to have a degree of certainty in our lives and a sense of control over our choices and actions. This is being challenged as we are being forced into actions and behaviours that are not ours.
Therefore if we do not feel we own these choices, then our actions and behaviours are in conflict and that leads to confusion, disillusionment and anger.
Now most of us can put up with this sort of thing for a short while but when it drags on, with no real end in sight the pressure can begin to mount and with any excess pressure something has to give.
So what can we do?
1. Acceptance.
Ouch, really, we have had enough and you are saying just accept the situation we are in? Well yes I am, if we can accept the situation then we will not be fighting it anymore. Stressing ourselves out over something we cannot fix is no cure. By accepting where we are will allow us to see things in a different way.
2. Changing our perspective.
Now that we are no longer fighting the situation we can use the time, remember it is the same amount of time we always had, to review what is important in our lives and really see how we can get more of these things and ditch the ones that were really just filling space in our lives but not really adding any value to it. WARNING!!! This might be something that you have been putting off for years as you know the answers and they might not be palatable but now is the opportunity to clear the decks.
• Work : do really miss it, other than the paycheck? Is there something that you always wanted to do that you now have the time to tackle? Are you a music genius, a writer perhaps, an artist? No matter what now is the time to express yourself.
• Health: can you take the time now to review your health, stop smoking perhaps, cut down on alcohol, try a vegetarian diet, exercise more – become a yoga master twisting your limbs into pretzel shapes in no time! (remember to check with your physician before radically changing your diet and exercise regime)
• Wealth: How much is enough? How can you get by with what you have, review where your money has been going, can this now be trimmed and even can you do without things that never have been essential anyway.
• Relationships: This is a real challenge as in times like these, our relationships are under pressure but we need to know if we can get through this then we can get through anything. However it might be time to review those who have not been helpful and have been more of a drain on your energies and take the opportunity to say “sayonara”.
3. Comparison trap.
Stop comparing yourself to others, there will always be someone who is more attractive, wealthier, has a bigger car, has a bigger house, has something you don’t have. But do you really need what they have? Is it that important? Is it okay to just have what you have, now is a great opportunity to review this.
4. Future planning.
This situation will not last forever. It will end. Take this chance to see how you are going to live your life in the future. Do you want to go back to the way it was, but this is unlikely as social distancing and various health protocols might be around for some time to come. So now is the chance to plan a different life, taking everything above into consideration, now you can really plan for a life that is less stressful, less chaotic and just better as you have taken the time to plan your life.
Remember you only get one life, but rarely do you get the chance to review and reset it to the way it should have been in the first place. Now might be that opportunity. Seize the opportunity as this is something you can still control.
Zoom! – “What was that”?
“That was your life, mate”.
“That was quick, do I get another”?
“Sorry mate, that’s your lot.”
David McAllister
anxietyclinicdublin.com
0858435939
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Dingle’s WWII survivor: ‘People need to relax’
Dingle’s WWII survivor: ‘People need to relax’
— Read on www.rte.ie/amp/1132874/Wise words from a patient lady on her 90th birthday.
It’s not easy at the moment, which is understandable , we all feel uneasy, we are restless, we want to get back to our lives.
But we can’t, not just yet. This is the message on a global scale. Stay patient we will get through it together.
Let’s respect the wisdom.
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In these unprecedented times…
In these unprecedented times (sounds dramatic but they are) we all need to be mindful of where our heads are at.This is a nice graphic, I like it as it’s simple.Obviously managing anxiety on top of the current corona virus pandemic is challenging. But taking care of our mental health has never been so important.So hopefully this graphic can help focus our minds.Please seek the necessary anxiety management for your needs if you require it as, like me,I’m sure most anxiety management specialists can facilitate video interfaces.I personally use VSee and Zoom so take care of yourself and if you require any further information you can find it at: http://www.anxietyclinicdublin.comYou can also feel free to contact me at: anxietyclinc@dublin.comKind regardsDavid McAllister BSc(Hons) -
A little bit of creativity and health in Ireland
A big thanks to healthy Ireland and creative Ireland for an informative and interesting event. #healthireland #creativeireland #anxietyclinicdublin
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Steep rise in rates of anxiety and depression among young Irish Times Article
Steep rise in rates of anxiety and depression among young
Mental health study captured the views of more than 19,000 Irish young people
22 per cent of adolescents surveyed reported severe anxiety. File photograph: Getty Images/iStockphoto
Rates of anxiety and depression are on the rise among young people, according to the largest ever study of mental health among Irish teenagers and young adults.
The research, which captures the views of more than 19,000 young people aged between 12 and 25 years, also finds that teenagers who spend three hours or more online daily are more likely to be miss out on sleep and have higher rates of anxiety and depression.
The study was carried out by the UCD school of psychology and funded by Jigsaw, the national youth mental health service, and follows up on a similar study carried out in 2012.
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Who’s responsible anyway?
Photo by Dids on Pexels.com You may have heard this story before but indulge me as it’s important and relevant to all our lives. I have a copy of this on my office wall. Only through our own actions will we change our lives:
This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have.
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Freedom from Anxiety Journey
What’s the most common route to dealing with your anxiety?
GP?
Medication?
Counselling?
CBT?
Sometimes these interventions work which is great as you will not need to wait to see me however more often and not these don’t work. I know this as this is the route many people take before contacting me.
But that’s okay as you are now taking action and just because these interventions didn’t work this has nothing to do with my therapy.
Ask yourself this this question. How is my anxiety going to go away?
Seriously ask yourself, do you expect the things that didn’t work before to somehow work now?
Really focus on this as you now have a choice:
A: Continue doing what you are doing and hope for the best
OR
B: Contact me
We all need a plan B so if you have anxiety
contact me and I’ll show you how to retrain your mind so that can take control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
However only contact me if you really want to smash your anxiety and live the life you deserve.
Change is a lot easier that you might think.
Contact me today on:
email: anxietyclinic@dublin.com
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How you can stop feeling self conscious
One of the most common signs of anxiety is self consciousness. It’s not unusual for people to think that others are talking about them or feel negatively towards them.This “what will people think” mindset causes much anxiety.
Am I self conscious?
This can Result in paranoia and is almost certainly only “in the mind” of the person who experiences it. The idea that they are in the forefront of someone else’s mind is simply not true. In the same way we are in our own little bubble thinking about ourselves, they are doing the same. We are not in other people’s thinking as much as we like to think.
When you are anxious you look for clues to validate your belief that people are secretly talking about you behind your back or thinking bad about you. You become a “mind reader” where you actually think you know what other people are thinking about you. In reality people aren’t walking around thinking about you.
Tips on how to stop feeling self conscious
It’s funny when you mind read though, you never think that they think anything nice about you! It’s always negative. Yet if you really could read minds you would be rich, you’d be on TV you’d be a celebrity. Are you any of these things? No. So you can’t read minds so it’s just paranoid thinking then.
So whenever you try to “read people’s minds” there’s usually only 1 outcome. You will think something negative. It’s rare you will ever think “they think I’m great”. Let’s face it not everyone will like us in life. Do you like everyone you meet? No. If people like us that’s great if they don’t well that’s their loss.This is key to how to stop feeling self conscious.
Please absorb this!
You weren’t put here to please people, if they don’t like your personality it’s fine. You don’t like everyone’s personality either. It works both ways. Some people will like you some won’t. It’s the way it’s always been. So when you accept this it creates peace. It gives you closure. You stop bending your personality to try to please people. They aren’t bending to please you. All you do is lose yourself when you try to please everyone.
It’s time to take back control of your thoughts and feelings.If you need one to one help to combat the above you can call me on:
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Let’s talk about scrabble
anxietyclinicdublin.com Some games are more insightful than others. If your scrabble board looks like this …it’s time to talk
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To the mothers of the world
Where does this begin?
On the first day, the touch, the warm embrace, the sweetest connection.
The sternest of protection for your own good.
An omnipresence of values taught through time reflecting on generations past.
That ethereal knowledge, forged in chaos to be resolved in one woman.
On this day on all days remember:
Mama knows best.
Respect
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…and that’s okay
I love this…now.
I was sceptical at first about this but you know in the therapy business and indeed in any walk of life you have to give things a go.
Give it a try and keep using it.
You, like me, might just surprise yourself.
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