“When you’ve seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.”
― George Harrison
Category: Beauty
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Monday Quote
Peace of mind -
Breathing in the sun for natural growth
Sunshine herb garden Just breathing in the morning sun aside my herb garden. Watching them grow from seeds to now has given me an enormous sense of happiness and well-being.
A little bit of food and water, a touch of warmth and TLC can bring so many positive benefits.
Our self limiting beliefs and toxic environments may stunt our potential for growth but through choices and action this can change.
Therapy comes in many forms as does growth.
Seasons come and go. Don’t let another slip by.
Breath in the sun and watch how you to can grow.
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Amazingly Simple breathing technique to try right Now.
Breathing to relax Have you ever found yourself feeling stressed or anxious and you are literally gasping for air , struggling to breathe?
This is scary, right?
Probably you have found the more you try to breathe the harder it becomes,true?
Well now you can use this amazingly simple breathing technique that will instantly relax you, letting both your mind and body settle .
The best thing is , as it is so simple, all you have to do is remember 3 numbers : 4-7-8
Simple right?
So this is what you do:
1- Breathe in through your nose to the count of 4
2- Hold that breathe to the count of 7
3- Breathe out through your mouth to the count of 8
When you breathe in just focus on your breath breathing in calmness, love and relaxation.
When holding your breath just visualise this calmness, love and relaxation flowing through your mind and body.
Finally when breathing out imagine you are blowing out through a straw all the while releasing any tension, fears and worries.
Notice and feel how you begin to relax and calm down just by using this simple conscious breathing technique.
This will allow you to begin to breathe normally again.
3 numbers: 4-7-8.
Amazingly simple,right?
Further information can be found at http://anxietyclinicdublin.com or feel free to contact me at anxietyclinic@dublin.com
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10 things stopping you being awesome
Awesome - Stop worrying about what others think of you, as they probably too consumed with worrying about the same thing.
- Spinning too many plates. Stop. No one can do it all by themselves, start delegating or outsourcing to free up time.
- Hate your job? Do something about it as it won’t change itself.
- Too many energy vampires in your life? Ditch them, spend more time with those who help and motivate you.
- Lacking motivation, no.4 above will help, then set a small manageable goal and build from there.
- No direction? Like motivation it’s time to plan what you want in life and set goals.
- Putting other’s happiness before your own? Time to be positively selfish and let the happiness in for yourself first.
- It’s not your fault? Maybe so but don’t let circumstances dictate your life take responsibility and you’ll feel better.
- Ditch the comparison trap, focus on what you already have how more awesome you can be for you and others.
- Stop living in the past or too far into the future. We all only have this present moment. Make it count.
Feel free to contact me for further information.
David Mcallister
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Now you come to mention it Yes I am stressed and anxious.
Anxiety Stressed Stress and anxiety are in my experience involved in a great many of the causes for clients coming for hypnotherapy.
People looking for hypnotherapy may present with an issue such as smoking or weight loss however I see stress and anxiety as an underlying cause and can lead to many problems if ignored.
Relaxation exercises, and other stress management techniques can be very useful in overcoming stress and anxiety caused by everyday life. So much so I utilise these frequently.
Due to a variety of socio-economic conditions, stress and anxiety have now become more widely recognised by both individuals and employers. Globally thousands of work days are lost to these conditions .
In addition there is great personal anxiety which can lead to relationship tension , depression, panic attacks and many other problems.
Effective stress and anxiety management means not just dealing with the presenting stress and anxiety but to also help to avoid reaching high stress and anxiety levels in the first place. Hypnosis can help by:
>Creating an understanding about the reasons and factors underlying stress and anxiety.> Teaching relaxation techniques so you can develop new ways to relax naturally and easily.
>Reframing thinking to help with panic attacks, anxiety and fears.Remember stress and anxiety can cause problems in very clever and unhelpful ways. But it doesn’t have to be like this, even if you don’t think you have choices- you do.
We might not be able to avoid stress and anxiety and indeed we all need a little edge to keep us alive but let’s take action before it gets too much to handle.
Stay safe and for any further information please feel free to contact me:
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Memento mori (we all must die)
Memento Mori Remember we all must die. I’m in my 50s and here I am just listening to some old records(vinyl to those too young to know what a record is) after talking to old friends in the modern communication via Zoom. We are middle aged and beyond, yet I don’t see who we are now but the children we were. To close my eyes, just to listen and it takes me back. Not men, not fathers, not husbands, but just us.
As a student of the social sciences many years ago I discarded the views of ageing as it was put to me then. For youth would of course never die, or at least , have an appreciation of an end. But then those held dear, close, go, gone. It hurts. Perhaps only for a short time and we move on. Youth remains strong. But not forever.
We never can be sure when it happens, when the first cut of age takes it’s quota- a wrinkle, an ache, thoughts of the past more prominent than the future, who can be sure other than to know it just happened beyond our control. Then what?
Do we continue down the path we’ll worn by those who came before us or challenge ourselves to greater glories or wait, just wait for something, anything to change our course?
I come across far too many people who dream and hope that things will improve but like the ancient Romans are willing to leave their fates to the Gods of fortune( Fortuna spinning her wheel of fortune).
This alarms me as I see an abundance of talent and potential just dreaming or wasting their lives away not realising everyone including you has something to offer through being alive.
Sure if you’re content with your life and don’t feel the need to do anything differently, then that’s fine, it’s your choice. You probably don’t need to continue reading but for those who don’t feel that way then please stay with me.
In the long run we are all dead.
John Maynard KeynesI’m not going to preach, that’s not what’s this is about. I just want you to understand, no mortal being lives forever, not you, not me , not the generations past or indeed yet to come.
We all have to start somewhere, no matter your current age or circumstances, if you want to change where you are then do it and do it now.
Remember:
- Dreams and hopes don’t come true without action
- Waiting doesn’t change anything or get things done
- Memento Mori (we all must die) make it a life worth living
David McAllister BSc(Hons), ADCHP, MCHPA
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Katy Perry’s hypnotising heartbreak ditty is perfect therapy for fans
guess I could try hypnotherapy, I gotta rewire this brain’
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Is it time to fill the constant that is time?
The speed of time standing still Zoom! – “What was that”?
“That was your life, mate”.
“That was quick, do I get another”?
“Sorry mate, that’s your lot.”
Basil Fawlty in Fawlty Towers, BBC Television. (John Cleese)
Our lives might not seem to be moving quickly at the moment but they are moving at the same pace as yesterday, the days before that and the days to come.
The virus has however changed all our lives. Time has remained the constant that it always was but how we use this time as changed.
Before we probably didn’t think we had enough of it but now that has altered and we are not too sure how to deal with it.
Most of us like to have a degree of certainty in our lives and a sense of control over our choices and actions. This is being challenged as we are being forced into actions and behaviours that are not ours.
Therefore if we do not feel we own these choices, then our actions and behaviours are in conflict and that leads to confusion, disillusionment and anger.
Now most of us can put up with this sort of thing for a short while but when it drags on, with no real end in sight the pressure can begin to mount and with any excess pressure something has to give.
So what can we do?
1. Acceptance.
Ouch, really, we have had enough and you are saying just accept the situation we are in? Well yes I am, if we can accept the situation then we will not be fighting it anymore. Stressing ourselves out over something we cannot fix is no cure. By accepting where we are will allow us to see things in a different way.
2. Changing our perspective.
Now that we are no longer fighting the situation we can use the time, remember it is the same amount of time we always had, to review what is important in our lives and really see how we can get more of these things and ditch the ones that were really just filling space in our lives but not really adding any value to it. WARNING!!! This might be something that you have been putting off for years as you know the answers and they might not be palatable but now is the opportunity to clear the decks.
• Work : do really miss it, other than the paycheck? Is there something that you always wanted to do that you now have the time to tackle? Are you a music genius, a writer perhaps, an artist? No matter what now is the time to express yourself.
• Health: can you take the time now to review your health, stop smoking perhaps, cut down on alcohol, try a vegetarian diet, exercise more – become a yoga master twisting your limbs into pretzel shapes in no time! (remember to check with your physician before radically changing your diet and exercise regime)
• Wealth: How much is enough? How can you get by with what you have, review where your money has been going, can this now be trimmed and even can you do without things that never have been essential anyway.
• Relationships: This is a real challenge as in times like these, our relationships are under pressure but we need to know if we can get through this then we can get through anything. However it might be time to review those who have not been helpful and have been more of a drain on your energies and take the opportunity to say “sayonara”.
3. Comparison trap.
Stop comparing yourself to others, there will always be someone who is more attractive, wealthier, has a bigger car, has a bigger house, has something you don’t have. But do you really need what they have? Is it that important? Is it okay to just have what you have, now is a great opportunity to review this.
4. Future planning.
This situation will not last forever. It will end. Take this chance to see how you are going to live your life in the future. Do you want to go back to the way it was, but this is unlikely as social distancing and various health protocols might be around for some time to come. So now is the chance to plan a different life, taking everything above into consideration, now you can really plan for a life that is less stressful, less chaotic and just better as you have taken the time to plan your life.
Remember you only get one life, but rarely do you get the chance to review and reset it to the way it should have been in the first place. Now might be that opportunity. Seize the opportunity as this is something you can still control.
Zoom! – “What was that”?
“That was your life, mate”.
“That was quick, do I get another”?
“Sorry mate, that’s your lot.”
David McAllister
anxietyclinicdublin.com
0858435939
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Dingle’s WWII survivor: ‘People need to relax’
Dingle’s WWII survivor: ‘People need to relax’
— Read on www.rte.ie/amp/1132874/Wise words from a patient lady on her 90th birthday.
It’s not easy at the moment, which is understandable , we all feel uneasy, we are restless, we want to get back to our lives.
But we can’t, not just yet. This is the message on a global scale. Stay patient we will get through it together.
Let’s respect the wisdom.
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You might not live forever but you might just be a nicer, happier person before you go.
www.facebook.com/290974401588395/posts/545124699506696/
Another great article from BBC future. You might not live forever but you might just be a nicer, happier person before you go. #bbcfuture #behappy #positiveaging #anxietyclinicdublin
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A little bit of creativity and health in Ireland
A big thanks to healthy Ireland and creative Ireland for an informative and interesting event. #healthireland #creativeireland #anxietyclinicdublin
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Steep rise in rates of anxiety and depression among young Irish Times Article
Steep rise in rates of anxiety and depression among young
Mental health study captured the views of more than 19,000 Irish young people
22 per cent of adolescents surveyed reported severe anxiety. File photograph: Getty Images/iStockphoto
Rates of anxiety and depression are on the rise among young people, according to the largest ever study of mental health among Irish teenagers and young adults.
The research, which captures the views of more than 19,000 young people aged between 12 and 25 years, also finds that teenagers who spend three hours or more online daily are more likely to be miss out on sleep and have higher rates of anxiety and depression.
The study was carried out by the UCD school of psychology and funded by Jigsaw, the national youth mental health service, and follows up on a similar study carried out in 2012.
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Who’s responsible anyway?
Photo by Dids on Pexels.com You may have heard this story before but indulge me as it’s important and relevant to all our lives. I have a copy of this on my office wall. Only through our own actions will we change our lives:
This is a story about four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have.
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Freedom from Anxiety Journey
What’s the most common route to dealing with your anxiety?
GP?
Medication?
Counselling?
CBT?
Sometimes these interventions work which is great as you will not need to wait to see me however more often and not these don’t work. I know this as this is the route many people take before contacting me.
But that’s okay as you are now taking action and just because these interventions didn’t work this has nothing to do with my therapy.
Ask yourself this this question. How is my anxiety going to go away?
Seriously ask yourself, do you expect the things that didn’t work before to somehow work now?
Really focus on this as you now have a choice:
A: Continue doing what you are doing and hope for the best
OR
B: Contact me
We all need a plan B so if you have anxiety
contact me and I’ll show you how to retrain your mind so that can take control of your thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
However only contact me if you really want to smash your anxiety and live the life you deserve.
Change is a lot easier that you might think.
Contact me today on:
email: anxietyclinic@dublin.com
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How you can stop feeling self conscious
One of the most common signs of anxiety is self consciousness. It’s not unusual for people to think that others are talking about them or feel negatively towards them.This “what will people think” mindset causes much anxiety.
Am I self conscious?
This can Result in paranoia and is almost certainly only “in the mind” of the person who experiences it. The idea that they are in the forefront of someone else’s mind is simply not true. In the same way we are in our own little bubble thinking about ourselves, they are doing the same. We are not in other people’s thinking as much as we like to think.
When you are anxious you look for clues to validate your belief that people are secretly talking about you behind your back or thinking bad about you. You become a “mind reader” where you actually think you know what other people are thinking about you. In reality people aren’t walking around thinking about you.
Tips on how to stop feeling self conscious
It’s funny when you mind read though, you never think that they think anything nice about you! It’s always negative. Yet if you really could read minds you would be rich, you’d be on TV you’d be a celebrity. Are you any of these things? No. So you can’t read minds so it’s just paranoid thinking then.
So whenever you try to “read people’s minds” there’s usually only 1 outcome. You will think something negative. It’s rare you will ever think “they think I’m great”. Let’s face it not everyone will like us in life. Do you like everyone you meet? No. If people like us that’s great if they don’t well that’s their loss.This is key to how to stop feeling self conscious.
Please absorb this!
You weren’t put here to please people, if they don’t like your personality it’s fine. You don’t like everyone’s personality either. It works both ways. Some people will like you some won’t. It’s the way it’s always been. So when you accept this it creates peace. It gives you closure. You stop bending your personality to try to please people. They aren’t bending to please you. All you do is lose yourself when you try to please everyone.
It’s time to take back control of your thoughts and feelings.If you need one to one help to combat the above you can call me on:
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Let’s talk about scrabble
anxietyclinicdublin.com Some games are more insightful than others. If your scrabble board looks like this …it’s time to talk
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To the mothers of the world
Where does this begin?
On the first day, the touch, the warm embrace, the sweetest connection.
The sternest of protection for your own good.
An omnipresence of values taught through time reflecting on generations past.
That ethereal knowledge, forged in chaos to be resolved in one woman.
On this day on all days remember:
Mama knows best.
Respect
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…and that’s okay
I love this…now.
I was sceptical at first about this but you know in the therapy business and indeed in any walk of life you have to give things a go.
Give it a try and keep using it.
You, like me, might just surprise yourself.
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